personal
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About the Memory of Dreampaint Loon
Sian heard yesterday that her friend Dreampaint Loon had died. Inevitably, she heard it from Dream’s best friend, partner in crime and not-quite-platonic soul(less)mate Rei Gynoid, with whom Dream was inseparable for as long as Sian knew either of them — in fact, Sian never saw Dream inworld without Rei. Dream had passed on the
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Burnout
Three professionals told Sian she was in full burnout last week. It’s not a surprise. Her life feels like she’s fighting a war. She’s in pain all the time. She doesn’t sleep. What can she do? It’s at time like these that embodiment seems more important than ever. Taking pictures of your virtual self brings
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Redux 4: Headless
Adult content. You know it. Content Warning for discussion of mental health, messed up psychological dynamics, suicidal ideation and pretended self-harm, along with sexuality, transradicalisation and all of that sort of thing. They’re the literal opposite of censorship, both an expression of compassion for the reader and a statement of respect, a recognition that the
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Redux 3: The Cyberdoll Manifesto
Imaginary Reader, this is another 18-certificate post. Adults only beyond this point. Catch up, if you need to, with part 1 (the why) and part 2 (the what). Done that (or don’t care)? well, let’s crack on. Ethical CNC, then: is that even a thing? Can that even be a thing? Can we do it
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We’re the problem
We freak people out. We’re autistic, we’re weird, we talk about kink stuff and trans stuff and dominance theory all the time. And we freak people out. It’s easy for Sian to blame them. They’re ableist. They’re messed up and they’ve got stuff going on. But what if Sian is the problem? What if she
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We should (not) be ashamed of ourselves (probably)
In response to our previous post, Sian’s reader, beloved friend, regular philosophical sparring partner, and better blogger than Sian Portia Capelo wrote, in response to the idea that we’re not doing it for realsies: Sian had to stop and have a think about that, and maybe formulate an answer. And Sian felt she should write
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Redux 2: Where Do We Get Off?
This follows directly from the last post and it’s the part where we talk about fetishes. Weird fetishes, dark fetishes. This is quickly going to get heavy. It’s redemptive, too, but there are traumatic things that aren’t for kids and aren’t for you if you’re vulnerable or easily offended. That’s not a judgement: some people
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Faceless
RL!Sian doesn’t have a face. Oh, sure, you’ll look at her and you’ll see two eyes, two ears, a nose, a mouth; she looks perfectly normal to you. But she can’t look in a mirror. She can’t countenance photographs of herself. It’s always been like that: recently she realised that the fact that she doesn’t
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Directional Membrane
Last week, RL!Sian was interviewed by a qualitative researcher about her activism. She’s a central part of a volunteer organisation that advocates and supplies housing for disabled and multiply marginalised people. It wasn’t necessarily the intention that nearly everyone they had on the books was queer, but disability, housing precarity and queerness are honestly more
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What happened to the old site?
The address is the same, but the location is different. Technically, it was a Blogger site, and we were so sick of Google putting it behind two levels of content (you had to be logged in to see adult content, but you also had to get past a warning for “sensitive” content every time you